Sunday, 6 November 2016

August #2: The first days of the Isle of Man

After our two-hours of sleep the night before in London, we finally landed in the Isle of Man after 9pm or so on a delayed flight. We were in no mood to be elated, or anything, just sleep. But in the morning we were happy to wake up in the Isle of Man in glorious summer:





Our arrival coincided with not just warm weather and sunshine, but also calm seas. It meant that Cori was able, one happy evening after dinner, go out for an evening swim before bed – how lovely!


A happy problem for us in the move was that the van with all of our stuff was not to come until a couple of days later, leaving us a weekend free and without the possibility of getting stuck into doing anything. So we decided to use the time wisely and go to the Agricultural Show at Knockaloe. Here the boys enjoyed themselves with the heap of exciting things on offer for young boys to gawp at…





One of the key attractions was the bouncy castle, which they both went on (which is rare):


We were delighted to discover that the two other brothers on the bouncey castle at the same time were named Finbar and Orry. We laughed at that coincidence only hours into our first day’s activity on the Island… Though we would only about a month later discover that Finbar was soon to be met again at the school gates, as Finn’s new school-mate!
Sadly, the best we can do with their first group shot is Orry & Orry:


Finn was very excited about his school from long before we even got to the Island. So when we got his school uniform amongst one of the earliest tasks, he grew even more excited. He was delighted to be able to put it on as soon as he got home (and was upset not to be allowed to wear it every day following):


I had a couple of weeks on the Island before my work started, but Finn was very pleased to hear that he’d be next door to my work. Though, not for his benefit; rather so that I could look in at all the great things he was up to! On my first days at work I would send him pictures of the school, which he enjoyed – especially when there were chickens at the place in the children's’ stead!



We had lots of things to organise, including: flat, phones, banks etc. Getting these organised was not made easier by the flat needing a phone number, the phone needing a bank account, and the bank account needing an address. However, we kept at it miserably, though making sure that we did exciting things with the boys, such as going out on a trip to Maughold Head (via Kirk Maughold and Hall Caine’s grave):




Irritatingly our sandwiches were interrupted on the top by a freak cloud of flies and we retreated to the village green, where we bumped into granny, making the trip all the more special!


Another trip was with the cousins to Port Cornaa, where we enjoyed sandwiches, built towers to knock down and paddled in the stream (though absolutely not the raging sea!):




Also with the cousins, we had a trip to Peel, coinciding with a viewing of a flat on Douglas Street. The flat was ok, but the beach was excellent:




The sea was, of course, very cold. It was shocking for us all to see Finn in the water, but perhaps it was just being with the braver older cousins which made the difference. But even more amazing was Orry in the water. He was fearless and Cori almost had to pull him back from running in head-first into the waves! The only real problem was getting him away from it all at the end – what a grump!


It transpires that Orry loves the beach, and is fearless about getting in the water. This meant that Ramsey beach was effectively Orry’s favourite place in the whole world, which is nice, since it was just outside the flat!




If you thought that that last picture appeared to show Orry dumping sand down his own back, you were right:


Knowing that we were very likely to move to Peel once we found a flat, we remained in the East or North for our outings, including one to the rocky shore below Kirk Maughold:


Finn was especially fond of this place, as there was “a machine” on the shore, which I knew of and which was one of the key draws to get him on the rather long walk there in the first place!

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We also went to Rushen Abbey for a special children’s event. It was fun enough, but, we painfully felt, it was nothing like what they used to do at the Museum of London…



At Rushen Abbey we bumped into my work colleague, Chloe, and her daughter, who is to be Finn’s schoolmate. This was the second time we’d bumped into them, after seeing them at Maughold a few weeks earlier. It was good to have Finn silently eye-ball another child to be at the school – the normalise them and to have at least one known face there. It was steeling Finn ahead of that first day nicely.
The final trip of August was out to the Ayres Nature Reserve, which we’d never been to before but which was very beautiful:




However, there wasn’t really much there to do other than to throw a couple of rocks in the sea and wander up the observation tower – not too thrilling for children:




Inspired by “John Dog” and his Manx crafts at the Abbey the day before, Cori fancied making a Bumbee Cage:

and got some suitable reeds (with Orry standing guard)…


… However, Orry’s suspicion was probably justified, as the result proved:


To be fair, the failure was almost certainly due to the freshness of the reeds, and not at all due to Cori’s ineptitude (says Cori).
Then we returned to melt in the heat in the sheltered park at Bride – a lovely day out.


One of the oddest though impressive things to report from our first weeks in the Isle of Man was that Orry, one day, decided that he wanted to wee on the potty (he had seen Finn use it when caught out in the bath). So we got it out, he sat down and concentrated, and a puddle of wee and a poo was left behind. Phenomenal! It’s not been repeated though, and we’re all not too convinced that it would be worth the effort to push it, so it was just a shocking flash in the pan (or maybe “poo in the pot”):


Finn and Orry were fine about being in the Isle of Man and not London. Finn expressed a regret about not being able to see this person or do that thing once or twice, but nothing more than just a passing regret; nothing like a whine or an accusation. But we knew that the real difficulties would begin when I began work, and perhaps when school disrupted things.
My first week or two of work came in August and went by without problem for Finn and the family. All were happy enough (though Cori stressed and tired by the lot of them and all the organising to be doing!). I, however, was in my first new job for 10 years, and very much enjoying it! All looking good for the first Manx weeks!

August #1: The Last of London

On Thursday the 11th of August 2016 we left London to take up our new life in the Isle of Man. These final eleven days were action-packed and momentous as you might expect.
But first, the monthly pictures:

21 months old
22 months old

58 months (4 years 10 months) old
59 months (4 years 11 months) old

This one was also taken during the monthly photos, when Finn found one of the camping equipment bits that we were trying to pack, and decided that he was off on a hike.


Our final less-than-two-weeks in London was, perhaps obviously, spent with a great many Lasts: last Dad’s Club, last great Whole-Family-Adventure, Last day at nursery, last days in our flat etc. But before getting onto that, the two boys continue to grow and grow up. Orry in particular is surprising us in how much of a little boy he is becoming by the day. Here are a few little notes or stories which give a very good idea of Orry as he is now...
We were distracted at dinner one evening for a minute or so. The next time we turn around, we find Orry quietly putting pieces of bread down his shirt. "Orry, what are you doing?" we ask. He looks up innocently and earnestly tells us everything in a single word: "Pocket." He then looks down into his shirt and spies the heap of crumbs against his belly, and then looks up and quietly says: "Uh-oh." We all laugh, Finn most heartily.
Previously it was Finn who lead the activities, with him running from this to that and Orry following in his wake. But now it is more becoming Orry who initiates things. Finn will often be found quietly playing with his toys (talking for them in some odd role-play involving whatever car, Lego person or stuffed toy is to hand), so it is left to Orry to wander off and do something fun or silly, but normally disruptive. It is not an amazing thing in itself, but it is quiet a development in the relationship between Finn and Orry, and the dynamic of the house. Although we're delighted about Orry's "development" and "independence", we're also very much aware that Orry's "a trouble-maker", as Finn so frequently calls him!
Orry has recently taken on the need to say "please" to play the polite game with us; to get when he wants, and to do the right thing in our conversations. However, Orry being Orry, he doesn't just say it. Rather, he will quietly whisper it and then give you a cheeky smile. Very odd (and cute!)
He also took on, for only a couple of weeks or so, a lovely "no, thank you," which we managed to get on film:



"No, Deedah!" and "No, Mama!" are two of Orry's most distinctive phrases of late. They are generally said at great distraught volume when we try and do anything which he's displeased with. This might be trying to give him the wrong cereal, get him out of the bath, come into the room, stand in the wrong place etc. It's still a joke to us all, but it could blossom into being thoroughly annoying!
Orry - a little boy, along with his best friend in the world, his brother:



Last day at work

My (James’) last day at work was actually in July, but I forgot to mention it last time. But perhaps it’s better suited to this post of Lasts.
After nine years in the same role, it is quite something to leave. After the final leaving lunch everyone else headed back to the office, and I turned and walked away. Freedom, fear, strangeness. It is very strange indeed
Nine years done, just like that.
In contrast, Cori’s giving up work was a terrible wrench; giving up something which she loved and which was perfectly suited to. To this was added, as she was leaving, the realisation that she had embedded herself into a group of lovely people and good friends, as was shown by the honestly surprisingly and lovely turn-out for her farewell tea:


This was followed by the leaving dinner, where much drink was drunk and much crying cried.
At the point of leaving Cori was also realising not just how good she was at her job, but how special her skills were in the role and in the museum, but also how this was beginning to be recognised by The Powers in the Museum. Besides the success of the Latitude Festival trip, the most obvious example of this was Cori’s having brought about the Museum’s first ever “show”, on the theme of pirates.


This has been achieving large crowds, or the right sort (i.e. new visitors etc.), and getting shining reviews, such as this which was a screenshot of a random section of comments below the Museum’s advert for the show – that these are just random people who have been or who want to go is quite amazing:


It is a big wrench for Cori to leave her work, and it very sad to leave the museum now, just when it looks as if things were really beginning to fit together for her... And there is not much to done about that in the situation other than to just be very sad indeed…


Last Dad’s Club

I’ve spoken many times about the importance of Dad’s Club to me and the family; because of its providing of a community and giving me confidence and empowerment as a parent. I am a better father because of it, and the boys are better people through it also. – I don’t think that I need to go on again about that side of it.
What is perhaps worth saying is that it has been absolutely a part of my life as a parent, ever since Finn was under one. It has been absolutely a part, therefore, of Finn’s life also.
Finn and I have been the longest-attending for months now. It was strange to be thanked and bode farewell at the end of the final session, in just the way that I saw others bode farewell within months of my first going. Back then I thought it unremarkable that someone had been there a lot and now was not going to go again – it was irrelevant to me and Finn. But now that it is me, it is strange to see all the new dads with young children in my position then, who are just embarking on the journey that Finn and I (and Orry) are now finishing off for the last time. It was a great time which had a large impact on the quality of our lives, and I can only wish that they get as much from it as we all did.
We took chocolates for Simon and Diane, the organisers of the event every fortnight, and Finn thought to draw their portraits on the wrapping paper. They are absolute likenesses of them both:


It was strange to hand these over, and have the final chat, and then go. And it was all over.
Finn, however, enjoyed the mask we made from the remnants of the wrapping…!




Art

Since most of it was made a Dad’s Club, it is probably worth putting in some of Finn’s weird and wonderful art here…




These were all done at Finn's final trip to Dad's Club, where there was a giant African snail (which appears in the pictures). There was not, however, a vampire under the stairs. I have no idea where that came from!
Finn also did a lovely variation of a picture in one of his books: of someone inside a postbox with lots of letters all around them - this time the person is joined by Finn also:


Orry also likes drawing, for a short period of time at a go, but its mostly to scribble over whatever it is we've done at his demand...



Last Whole Family Adventure: London Eye & Aquarium

We thought that our final Adventure in London should be a good one, so we submitted to the misery of tourist crowds and the horrifying costs to go and do something that Finn had wanted to do for a long time: the London Eye.





Finn didn’t have any specific reason to want to go on it, other than that it was there, he knew its name, and he knew that it was possible to go on it. He enjoyed it though, as did Orry.






Orry also particularly enjoyed the packed lunch which followed – Orry always enjoys food.


After the food, Orry felt ready to take on the world... maybe...


Having done the Finn thing, and since it was just there, we then did the Orry thing and went to the aquarium. Orry and Finn (and we) enjoyed it a lot:





An curious part of the aquarium was a small gallery about the water system in London, with a short film running through the history of London sewers from Bazalgette through to the modern dealing with the Thames Estuary flood plain. What with its swish graphics of pipes and flows, an occasional toilet and the appearance of death in the form of a skeleton boatman, Finn was transfixed. It obviously went into him as he reproduced the sewerage system of London in perfect replica on his whiteboard once he got home:


A good final adventure day, and something worthy of our last full free day in London.


Final day

Packing began three week before departure. At first it was slight, then it was interrupted by other pressing chores (such as final fixes to the house, form filling and Council dealing etc.), leaving the majority to the final three days before we left. This was as planned, as it was to be both Cori and James, with the boys in nursery, which seemed like plenty of time.
It. Was. Not.
Inevitably we completely underestimated how long everything took, and so the final rooms were begun to be packed at midnight on the evening before (morning of) the day of departure. We were there in misery until 4am putting the last damn things in the last damn boxes, before dropping into bed for two hours and then getting up at 6am for the day of the move.
This was the final mass of stuff (excluding a couple of things which were in the next room):




We are not sure whether we were quicker or not for Finn’s help, but we’re certain that we were slower for Orry’s!


This is what Finn and Orry thought of the move over breakfast on that last day in London:


The day looked like this:
4am Go to sleep
6am Get up
8am Drop boys off for their final day of nursery (and the final day of the term)
8.10am Pack the final things into boxes at a desperate speed
11am Removals men arrive
(11.05am Finish packing)
11.05am Start shifting everything into the vans
1.30pm Finish packing the vans & the removals men leave
2pm Finish cleaning the house
2.30pm Drop off the discarded stuff at Oxfam
2.45pm Much sandwiches on the walk home
3pm Get to nursery to pick up boys
3.30pm Get out of nursery after our final goodbyes
4pm Set off to Gatwick (on the bus and train, via Victoria)
7pm Flight delayed
8pm Set off
9pm Land in the Isle of Man
9.15pm All children asleep in the car
10.30pm everyone asleep at last!

It was a long and terrible day, but we were able also to find time to realise and take in the Last Times of it. Finn too…
As I walked Finn to nursery he asked me to keep something or other in my memory, and I commented that this was his last time going into nursery and that he should keep that in his memory. He was quiet and I asked him how it made him feel to be going to the Isle of Man later and leaving London behind: “Excited,” he said thoughtfully, “but also sad. The sad is mixed in with the excited.” I agreed wholeheartedly.
And, this was what we looked like minutes before this exchange, waving goodbye to Cori on our last ever trip to nursery in London:


It was probably a good thing that we were so busy all day, leaving little time to brood. But it was still terrible to collect the boys from nursery the last time, and to leave the house at last. “Home,” as Finn always insisted we call it.
When we came back in to collect our bags after getting the boys I stood quietly weeping in the bedroom as Cori finished the clean in the kitchen and Finn and Orry ran around in the space. I was surprised at my emotion at leaving, but it came in floods, and then we had to go.
Next stop, the Isle of Man!